If you click “play” below and you are a parent, be prepared to get out the tissues. The ad shows a dad cleaning out his car, and in doing so accessing memories of his daughter at different stages in her childhood.
It’s a reminder to me that childhood goes by fast. Someone once told me that in parenting, “the
days are long but the years are short.”
The statement struck me as absurd at the time but I think it makes
complete sense now. There have been
nights that I thought would never end.
And yet, conversely, I have blinked at my two oldest are almost as tall
as I and are off to multiple weeks of sleepaway camp. Even little Asher is fundamentally a
different creature than the baby we first bonded with just a couple of short
months ago.
I work very hard at my job, both in terms of time (60+ hours
a week, sometimes more) and effort (100 percent 100 percent of the time, ever
ruminating/scheming/pushing). And I am
very diligent about errands and chores, with each week bringing a list as long
as my arm to stay on top of. With what
little time I have left to spend on my kids, I am often focused on the past
(capturing moments, sharing them with family/friends) or the future (plotting
what they need to succeed in life).
I am not naturally inclined to be in the moment with my
kids. But it is what I will remember
some years from now, when I am having my own “clean out the car and a whole
childhood flashes before my eyes” moment.
And it is what my kids will remember when they think back to those same
childhoods. It’s something I try to tell
myself and others but too often forget to live out: “Since they only age in one
direction, today is the only day my kids will be this age, so make the most of
it.”
Parents, let’s be responsible in our jobs and with our
chores and errands. Let’s think about
the past and the future when we think about our kids. But let’s also enjoy the present.
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