Thursday, September 22, 2005

Losing Independence

One of the things parents have told us is that becoming parents is a bigtransition, bigger even than getting married.  A lot of the transition has to do with losing independence.  When you get married, you give up some of your independence; but when you become a parent, your child's dependence on you means your loss of independence. 

On the one hand, I don't think this is going to be so bad for Amy and me.  Neither of us were big-time socialites: staying at home to tuck in our kids at night and not being able to catch a movie or go out with friends isn't that big of a deal for us, since we didn't do a whole lot of catching of movies or going out with friends in the first place.  If anything, having Jada will make us more social: taking her for walks, exploring museums, and connecting with other families with small children.

On the other hand, though, losing independence will be hard for the both of us.  We are both fiercely independent, especially when it comes to our time.  And Jada's desire to nap, eat, and play might not always synch up with what's convenient for our schedule.  That, I think, will be a challenging adjustment.  But ask me in a few months.
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