Diagnosis

We're early in the process of getting a diagnosis for Asher for some of his special needs.  Throughout the process, folks have been great.  We have benefitted considerably from their expertise, empathy, and care.  

It has been telling that there has been much discussion about being wary of "labeling" Asher.  To be sure, there remain stigmas with various special needs, so I appreciate the sensitivity.  No need to rush or be cavalier.  And no need for someone to be defined solely by one aspect of themselves.

But, there is something assuring about reaching a diagnosis.  We've known for a while that there are special ways we have to deal with Asher in order for him to be happy and appropriate, for himself and to not be unfair to his friends, classmates, and teachers.  It's comforting for us that there's a reason for the extra accommodation and attention.  Because every parent has to figure out what works for their kid and then do what they can to make that happen.  But our version of this is often exhaustive and exhausting.  So it's nice to have some external validation that such efforts are warranted.  

We had to do some of the same with Jada and Aaron, and are glad for all the help along the way and see how it's made a difference.  Committed to go to bat for Asher too.  Will share more as we go deeper into this process.  In the meantime, thankful for all the good people in Asher's life who are fully aware of his special challenges and have committed to hanging in there with him and us, to care for him, nurture him, and keep him safe.