Thursday, May 27, 2010
Where Am I From
I remember when we were first preparing to receive Jada into our lives that I read about when and how to tell your kids about them being adopted. The books said the questions would come around three or four years old, and you should answer them in an age-appropriate manner: a four-year-old answer for a four-year-old, a seven-year-old answer for a seven-year-old, and so on.
Well, Jada's about a year behind on cognition so it's about right that it's been recent that she's taken an interest in her origins. At this point, our answers have been appropriate for her age - she didn't come out of Mommy's belly but out of a different person's, and Mommy and Daddy got her from China and Aaron from Taiwan - and apparently satisfactory for her.
This, of course, is the point of offering age-appropriate answers; kids don't need more information than they've asked for or than they're ready for. I'm sure that as she matures, she'll have many more questions. I just hope she will accept our answers, and most importantly, that she will accept herself. On those fronts, so far so good.