Note: this post does not involve any of the Huang kids. I
guess an important thing about being a father to kids is that sometimes you
have to do some kid-free things to maintain your sanity. Over the years, I’ve
learned to pick my spots – dropping the kids off at Kid Watch at the Y so I can
go work out, taking personal days from work to bike around in a nearby city,
even hiring a nanny so Amy and I can go on a long weekend.
What I’ve long schemed about, especially since buying a
place in Orlando, is hosting a golf weekend with friends. Asher’s not quite old
enough to be left home alone, so the timing of this necessarily has to synch up
with when he’s away at sleepaway camp, which this summer has provided two
possible slots since he’s been at two-week programs at two different locations.
During Asher’s two-weeker last month, circumstances didn’t
allow any travel (save for a solo day trip). But this month, I was able to take
Amy to Miami for a few days as a belated celebration of our 25th wedding
anniversary, which was a lovely return to a cherished place for our marriage in
that we’ve now been here six times without the kids, so it really feels like a
special getaway place where we can spend grown-up time together. Indeed, we ended
up seeing new sights but also returning to familiar haunts, both types of
activities engendering great joy in quality time free of kid responsibilities.
I then drove Amy to Orlando where we spent a night together
there before dropping her off at the airport, and then three of my closest
friends arrived for my first ever golf weekend. It was a wonderful “worlds collide”
moment, in that none of them had ever met each other, one of them being a
friend from high school, one from college, and one from work. But, they
instantly bonded with each other, which was perhaps the greatest joy I experienced
that weekend.
I say “perhaps” because there were many other contenders. Being
able to play golf on back-to-back days with the same foursome was an absolute
blast, as we picked each other up after the numerous bad shots we all hit, and
rejoiced in the few solid shots we did hit. It was also fun to do some sight-seeing
with fellow adults, shuttling around places like Kennedy Space Center and ICON
Park without having to manage kid-level worries. Maybe the greatest thrill,
given how packed my schedule normally is, was being able to do multiple multi-hour
fun things in a row, a stark contrast from when carving out time to play a
round of golf is necessarily preceded and succeeded by running around to make
up the time I’ve indulged in (e.g. racing through a grocery run beforehand,
zipping immediately off to work once all putts have landed on the 18th
green).
It helped immensely that these three friends I picked for
this first golf weekend are fellow brothers in the faith. We reveled in personal
testimonies, candidly shared struggles in our respective journeys, and even had
some mutual friends and experiences based on different ways our lives had
unknowingly crossed in past years. What a blessing to have extended time for
iron to sharpen iron. Can’t wait to plan next year’s golf weekend!