Yes, You Can Ask

Many but not all of our friends and relatives knew that we adopted Jada and Aaron.  But with Asher, there's no doubting that we are an adoptive family.  Which has opened the door for more questions, which are borne of either curiosity or else people who have been considering adoption and want some orientation as to how the process works.

Amy and I do lament not being able to have kids biologically.  It remains a huge and painful loss.  But making a family through adoption has been a wonderful and precious journey for which we are unspeakably grateful.  And we are happy to share about why we did what we did, how to do it, and what we have learned along the way.

Making a family is a personal subject, and adoption is still not mainstream enough to not be seen as sensitive ground.  But it is a big aspect of our family, and something we hope other families will consider as well.  Thanks to those who have felt comfortable enough with us to broach the subject, for whatever reasons, and with whom we have had delightful conversations.  We welcome more.  We're glad that there are folks out there who are interested in knowing more about how adoption works, and who are thinking about doing it themselves.  Telling our story gives us a way to give back and to recollect all the emotions and twists and turns and joys.