Organized sports is a common childhood activity that we
parents often prioritize when thinking of what will be good for our kids. We
value the values it imparted on us from our own lived experiences, and so we
desire for our own children to reap that benefit too.
I will leave for another day what “youth sports” has metastasized
into today, what with the traveling teams and the year-round schedules and the expensive
gear. Rather, I just want to reflect on what I see in professional sports that
warms my heart, which I draw a direct line to life lessons that we can learn
from sports from our earliest ages. In no particular order:
1. Owning failure. Like life, sports has success and
failure. Which may seem obvious, but in our social media saturated society, our
kids often only see success, or when they see failure it is something to be
mocked and shunned. But we will fail often in life, so we must learn not to
avoid it and we must learn how to own it. What a terribly small life that never
tries for fear of failing, or that has to meet failure with excuses or anger or
seclusion. For all the amazing exploits professional athletes are capable of,
the one that amazes me the most is their ability to fail spectacularly and
publicly, and yet move on to the next play. Or even worse, when their spectacular
and public failure costs their team the game, they meet with the press after
and own that they messed up. What a powerful, painful, and yet necessary life
lesson.
2. Having a goal and putting in the work to achieve it.
Sport is, by definition, competition, which means a ubiquitous goal is to win.
Which means having a plan in place to achieve that goal. Which means putting in
the work to come up with, prepare for, and work towards that success. Which,
again, sounds obvious. But how many of today’s kids don’t have plans at all,
let alone ones that are both inspiring to pursue while realistic enough to
achieve? And how unglamorous it is, in a social media age where success is not
only everywhere but effortless, to train and get the reps in and do it again
and be ready. Yet any professional athlete will tell you that the few seconds
of success on the court is built upon thousands of hours of practice. So it is
in life.
3. Be gracious in victory and defeat. We seem to have an
aversion for competition today, as if we are afraid of kids experiencing either
victory or defeat. Perhaps we are afraid that victory will get to their heads
or defeat will crush them, so we game our games so that there is no victory or defeat.
But in life we have victories and defeats. Is it not better to prepare our kids
for life by helping them to know how to be gracious in victory and defeat? Probably
the most heart-warming and tear-inducing videos of professional athletes for me
is when they spend the whole game competing their butts off against the other
team, and that after the final bell they embrace their competitors and show
respect for how hard good competition made them play. In life, there seems to
be no middle ground between “there can be no competition” and “the other side
is evil, not to be consorted with.” But in life, I would argue it is critically
important to understand that we compete all the time, and yet how wonderful it
is to respect, compliment, and have great affection for those we compete against.
I love seeing professional athletes do this.
What life lessons did you learn from sports when you were a
kid? If you’re a parent, what life lessons do you hope your kids learn from
their sports experiences.